As an ICAN chapter leader, and as a midwife, I give out lots of information on VBAC. I tell women that the research shows us that VBAC is safer than Elective Repeat Cesarean (ERCS). I recommend things like chiropractic care, Mayan Abdominal Massage, Optimal Fetal Positioning, and hiring a doula. These things truly can be helpful in achieving a VBAC, but they are not the most important things. A VBAC mama can have a vaginal birth without any of these things. Most of the time, all she really needs is to believe it.
Disclaimer: There is no one way that is right for every woman. Over the next few days I will discuss strategies worth exploring that have been important for other women.
To get into a frame of mind where you believe in your body and it’s ability to birth, spend time processing your cesarean birth. If it was traumatic, why? Could that be different? Think about doing some birth art, journaling, attending ICAN meetings, reading Birthing from Within, seeing a professional therapist, practicing Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or EMDR, and anything else you need to do to get it out. Try some visualization exercises, reframing the birth in a positive way.
Don’t get pregnant so you can have a healing birth. It just doesn’t work this way. You need to get okay with the idea that you could have another cesarean. Get pregnant when you are ready, because you love being a mom.